Quotes from Eckhart Tolle and random thoughts on EMDR & Nondual Wisdom
1. Feel the feeling
2. Allow it to surface
3. Acknowledge it
4. Burn with it
5. Let resolution happen or not
Remember there is nothing to defend because there is no one who needs one ‘one’ who needs defending.
Validate the others’ experience; even of ‘you’ if need be.
I made an extra effort to be nice to the teenagers this year. You know, the ones who trigger-treat.
I had a young client tell me that the thing she learned from Halloween is that people are nice to young children – “you can even go to their house and they’ll give you candy” – but. at some point when you become a teenager, they turn on you.
She said trigger-treating is a good example of that – “They look at you like you don’t belong.
Like all of a sudden you’re stealing, or something.”
She said she knew she ‘was’ too old but that the meta lesson was very powerful, for her.
So, anytime a teen would come, I’d be extra nice, and then reward myself for being so nice with a little more candy…
(I think Snickers are over-all the best, followed by Reese’s. The Hershey’s little chocolate squares are right up there somewhere.)
If the answer is, “No” then see if you can prove to yourself that there isn’t awareness; that you’re not aware. You won’t be able to prove it, but try.
If the answer is, “Yes” – “There is awareness.” Then ask, “Who or what am I that is aware?” and seek that. You won’t be able to find that, either, but try.
The best you can do is say, “I know that I am aware but I don’t know who or what I am that is aware; therefore, I must be awareness itself.”
In fact, that is the only thing we can know for sure: that there is awareness – the proof is from the inside out. You don’t have to believe or hypothesize anything to ‘know’ that to be true.
The Scientific Method is the opposite: It ‘assumes’ awareness and then tries to prove or understand (hypothesize) ‘what is’ or ‘what is not’ happening in the field of awareness.
That is, identifying the ‘objects’ in awareness – but not awareness itself, which it can’t do.
That is because anything can’t know itself.
Water knows of the ocean but the ocean can’t know the water (from which it is made).
Awareness can’t be proven or disproven.
You asked a vital question that is good to struggle with for awhile.
If the answer is, “No” then see if you can prove to yourself that there isn’t awareness; that you’re not aware. You won’t be able to prove it, but try.
If the answer is, “Yes” – “There is awareness.” Then ask, “Who or what am I that is aware?” and seek that. You won’t be able to find that, either, but try.
The best you can do is say, “I know that I am aware but I don’t know who or what I am that is aware; therefore, I must be awareness itself.”
In fact, that is the only thing we can know for sure: that there is awareness – the proof is from the inside out. You don’t have to believe or hypothesize anything to ‘know’ that to be true.
The Scientific Method is the opposite: It ‘assumes’ awareness and then tries to prove or understand (hypothesize) ‘what is’ or ‘what is not’ happening in the field of awareness.
That is, identifying the ‘objects’ in awareness – but not awareness itself, which it can’t do.
That is because anything can’t know itself.
Water knows of the ocean but the ocean can’t know the water (from which it is made).
Awareness can’t be proven or disproven.
You asked a vital question that is good to struggle with for awhile.
There was a line and it wasn’t moving.
The couple ahead of me was doing more than just buying coffee – they were taking-time and delaying whatever was supposed to be happening next. Which, in this case, was me ordering my 1/2 caf Americano, tall, with room.
‘I was in a hurry.’ I considered options, which included the thought that I could just leave. I contemplated that a bit. Like, no need to get upset, just quietly turn and walk out. Would that leave ‘attitude’? Did I kinda want that? Could I do it without leaving ‘attitude.’
Something decided the solution of leaving wasn’t satisfying; after all, I did want a cup of coffee, so I stayed.
Then I realized that actually, I wasn’t in a hurry at all.
I had lots of time in the scheme of what I’d set out to do that afternoon; which was to go to Home Depot and look at chain saws. There’s something satisfying about looking at machinery – metal that can chew up wood, the smell of 4-cycle mixed-fuel exhaust, buzz sound – and, I was just going to go look. I had all afternoon, if I wanted.
So then I thought, “This will be a good chance to just feel it.”
To feel my discomfort.
I did, and like it didn’t go away.
In my stomach and chest was tightness. A voice was saying ‘these people are too much.’
I just noticed – and burned. Stood very still.
After a cresendo of inner tension, it passed.
I was then left with being amazed at how peaceful it was.
In ‘reality’ nothing had changed – but in non-reality, the new reality, it was very different.
I asked myself, “Where did that come from? That ‘that’ that needed to be in a hurry? Who or what wanted that? Could I find that?
No. I couldn’t.
I did finally get served. I can’t say that the outer experience was ‘magically’ any different at all. The couple was still being self-indulgent but no longer a pain in the ass.
But I was different, or ‘there was difference within.’
Observing, noticing, looking within, not finding – all of that.
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I say to myself, “Things ‘could be’ different but they’re not.
I then ask myself, “Is this moment so bad (or is what’s happening now so bad) that I can’t allow myself to ‘feel it’, exactly as it is?”
‘Feeling it’ includes the emotions (fear, anger, grief) and the body sensations (chest tension, stomach butterflies, etc).
All you do is ask the question.
Inquire.
Don’t concern yourself with the answer.
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