Quotes from Eckhart Tolle and random thoughts on EMDR & Nondual Wisdom
Here’s a reminder to stay present when you you get triggered. (As stolen from Jr. Firemen).
When triggered: Stop, Drop and Roll.
Stop – what you’re doing, thinking or saying.
Drop – within. Turn attention inward and the body sensations that support the emotional charge.
Roll – with the negative, bad feelings. Feel them!
1. When your teen is ready to talk to you – he/she will.
1a. It will always be at the wrong time.
2. Use your reflective listening skills.
2a. If you don’t know what that is then find out.
2b. Be available to listen without giving advice.
3. Parent as a ‘Consultant.’
3a. Parenting styles change as the child gets older. You shift from being an adviser of pre-teen to a consultant to a teen.
3b. Consultants are hired and fired, as the parent of a teen you can be too – especially as they get older.
3c. You may be asked to give advice, but it still might not be taken. (Even though you may ‘know’ best!)
4. Ask yourself, “How do I show that I care in a way that works for my teen and works for me?”
4a. Ask yourself that continuously, over and over; especially while you’re in the process.
5. The relationship is the most important thing you’ll want to keep and maintain over the long run.
5a. Ask yourself, “What is more important, my relationship with my teen or getting my way?”
6. Learn to manage your own discomfort in the relationship.
6a. If your teen is ‘resistant’ to you and your parenting style, then see that as you creating the resistance and deal with it on that level – i.e. internally (Stop, Drop and Roll).
7. You got the exact parenting you needed!
7a. Let go of thinking your parents could have or should have done differently than they did.
7b. If your parents were great then do that and more.
7c If your parents were not-great then do the opposite (and more.)
Think of something that is mildly upsetting.
Pick something that is a 2 or 3 on a scale of 0 to 10, where 0 is neutral or nothing and 10 is as bad as it could get.
Think about the upsetting event.
As you think about it, ‘feel’ where the upset is appearing in the body. It may be in your chest, stomach, shoulders, back – the feeling as it appears on the body level - the body sensation of the feeling of the upset is appearing somewhere.
As you feel the body sensation underneath the feeling of upset, notice the ‘energy’ of the feeling and which way it is spinning. Clockwise or counter-clockwise, just notice which way the energy spins.
Notice the spinning for awhile, and then ’spin-the-feeling-in-the-other-direction.’
When you do that, notice what happens with the feeling.
Report back.
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Readers of The Daily Now are invited to share their thoughts, feelings and experiences related to the teachings presented.
This is a moderated list and guidelines are as follows:
1. Advice giving is withheld
2. Share from personal experience
3. There is no one who knows
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